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Choosing Your Divorce Method
By Kyle Chambers
The biggest mistake that people make when getting divorced is that they fail to plan. They simply decide to
leave the relationship and then enter and ugly and expensive battle that ends up hurting everyone involved. There
are some things that you could accidentally do that will make your divorce 100 time more miserable than it really
has to be.
As with anything in life, you need to have a plan. The same is true for divorce. If you dont plan for what you
want - chances are you won't get what you want. The first step towards having a plan is to know exactly what you
want. After you know what you want you can plan to get it.
Here is an excercise: (Get our a piece of paper and a pencil. Write the answers down to the following.)
Decide how much money you want (realistically) our of your divorce.
Decide how often you would like to see the children (if you have any)
Determine if the divorce will be uncontested or an all out battle.
Determine "when" you want to be divorced.
Write down all the possessions that you want (realistically).
Write down any other 'details' that you want established in your divorce.
Take a few minutes and try to put everything you can on this list. You will always be able to add to it
Now that you have made your list, go back and reread the list. Cross off everything on the list that isn't worth
fighting for, or doing hard work to get. You can save yourself a lot of hassle by knowing what not to ight for. If
it really isn't worth it to you - then don't worry about it.
Important Note: The things that you crossed off the list as things you didn't want to fight for are things that
you can 'pretend to be willing to fight for'! So when you negotiate you can mention that you have to have these
things. Then you can "trade" them for more important things that you really want.
Now you have a list of everything that you want. Be sure to include intangible things like "peace of mind", and
other concepts that aren't related to physical stuff. This is important because you will be using this list to get
every thing you want out of your divorce.
Now you need to take your list and figure out a time line. If you want to get divorced in 3 months, you should
probably already be contacting a lawyer. This brings up another point. Choosing the wrong lawyer can absolutely
devestate the entire divorce process for you. There is a way to choose the perfect lawyer but you can ask me about
It is also important that you DON'T tell your spouse that you want a divorce until you have followed the right
steps to make sure all of your bases are covered. There may be some financial things that you want to take care of
BEFORE you tell your spouse you want a divorce. If you just lose it and tell them you want a divorce, they won't
let you change names on the mortgage, car, checking account, etc...
So you need to plan ahead. If you can plan ahead things will go smoother. Now if you are already in the middle
of a divorce, there are still things you can plan for and other ways to get everything you want also. You need
access to come easy to use tricks that can help you negotiate for everything you want. This article does not cover
those tactics because there are too many to list here. A key factor in your negotiating skills is making your
spouse believe that they are getting a better deal than you. There are ways to do this. If you can't get them to
believe they are getting a better deal, then you need to employ stronger tactics to get what you want. You will be
able to use the items that you crossed off of your list as leverage in your negotiations.
It is vitally important that you plan for divorce with the right divorce method. From the list you just made,
you can make a detailed divorce method of your own to get exactly what you want from your divorce. You should also
seek out special techniques that will accelerate the results of your plan. If there is a way that you can tap into
the experience of thousands of people to get results, you should do so. I am not saying this to be mysterious. If
you read every last word of this article you will know where to find those resources.